by Rehana Thu Feb 13, 2014 5:10 am
Dodge these top 7 date errors, and watch Valentine's turn into a smash hit
We know that is the big hurdle, but landing a date is hardly the end of a lover's misery. It's just the beginning, gentlemen. And to make sure that the woman who has agreed to give you a chance believes she will find no one better than yours truly, here's a guide to getting your date tactics right:
1. Don't make it a, 'surprise!'
A plan always works better than a surprise, although it may sound less spontaneous. Sometimes, leaving it all to the last minute means you are leaving her vulnerable. Imagine this: you plan to get her to try the city's best sashimi, and you realise she's allergic to seafood. We are not saying you quiz her about her nutritional needs, but dropping subtle hints always works. Same with pets at home. What you think will be a cosy private dinner can backfire, with her scooting straight out of the door when your Rottweiler saunters in, and you realise (too late) that she isn't quite a dog person.
2. Take a relook at the loo
This one's crucial if you are calling her over to your pad. Bring out that baking soda and toilet cleaner and give your basin and commode a good scrub.
Polish your mirror till it sparkles (all women, all, look into the mirror), hang a fresh towel, roll in some toilet paper, and spray some room freshner (nothing overpowering) to give it that spring-like feel.
3. Don't go without ammo
Our sex expert Dr Mahinder Watsa doesn't tire of repeating it, and so will we. If you plan to take it to second base, always be prepared. Making love minus protection is so uncool. Not to mention the acid attack the fear of unwanted pregnancy and STDs can give you. And no, it's not being presumptuous. You never know where a date takes you.
4. Keep the supporting cast in the loop
By peripherals, we mean the supporting cast. It's never about the lovers alone. There's always a brother, or a friend, or probably your colleague at work who ended up introducing the two of you. It's always a good idea to keep that person in the loop. You don't want him finding out his sister went on a date with his buddy when he scrolls her Facebook posts the next day.
5. Look into your wallet
This one's an absolute must if you don't want to come across as a loser. Make sure your wallet carries enough cash (cards aren't always accepted everywhere) to cover all that you have planned for the night. We are not saying, guys always pay. But even if it's a 'let's-go-dutch' night, we suggest you offer to pay anyway. You are the man, and doubly responsible for picking the tab in case you asked her out and not the other way around. Making a dash to the nearest ATM is nothing but a romantic snafu.
6. Glance at your phone
It's the one time we imagine you won't have a problem putting your phone in Airplane mode. If you are taking her to a movie or the latest musical in town, do it all the more. To avoid the anxiety of 'missing' a call, inform your buddies, parents, siblings that you are going to be 'busy'. A mobile phone can be nothing but an intrusion on a romantic night out. And when you need it (to track the nearest roadside kebab joint because all the restaurants down shutters at 1.30), there's always Google maps. One more thing: use your phone on your way to meet her to make that crucial call to the taxi hire service so that the cab arrives when you want it to ride the two of you back home (hopefully, with her head on your shoulder).
7. Double check yourself
We are not going to state the obvious (pick the chicest, freshest shirt and trousers you can get your hands on, which you will slip on after a shower, shave, and mouth clean-up) but you really must take a re-look at yourself before you leave. Carry some mint or gum (never berry-flavoured unless you are 16) to keep your mouth kissable.
And then, take a moment to ask yourself, what am I going to be tonight? Mr Big Expectations? Sincere Joe? Sexy Sam? Play the part (or be just yourself) knowing full well that this may not translate into a second date. But make the most of tonight. Listen when she speaks, try not to brag, and stay clear of discussing exes, religion and caste — all tricky.